tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post3432358425695899624..comments2024-03-04T17:54:32.559+00:00Comments on Iain Dale's Diary: Saying GoodbyeIain Dalehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03270146219458384372noreply@blogger.comBlogger63125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-49439506767621925492007-10-31T17:16:00.000+00:002007-10-31T17:16:00.000+00:00If you will pardon the my forwardness, I have lit ...If you will pardon the my forwardness, I have lit a candle for all those who need a light. When it happens the hole will seem deeper than any well until you fill it with the love and respect you share. In my prayers,<BR/><BR/>Michael.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-89449464548492234672007-10-30T21:36:00.000+00:002007-10-30T21:36:00.000+00:00HelloYou have blogged loads today. Is this an avoi...Hello<BR/><BR/>You have blogged loads today. Is this an avoidance strategy? Why don't you go out for a walk (a decent walk in some properly remote place) and sort through your thoughts rather than attempting to bury them under a mountain of activity?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-40867317099420539552007-10-30T19:57:00.000+00:002007-10-30T19:57:00.000+00:00Stay strong for her.Stay strong for her.James Highamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14525082702330365464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-64511594413772905112007-10-30T14:12:00.000+00:002007-10-30T14:12:00.000+00:00My dear IainOur thoughts and prayers are with you ...My dear Iain<BR/><BR/>Our thoughts and prayers are with you and this wonderful Lady<BR/><BR/>Kind regards<BR/><BR/>G EAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-66271675121783608402007-10-30T05:56:00.000+00:002007-10-30T05:56:00.000+00:00Iain,Nearly three years ago I spent a few hours wi...Iain,<BR/><BR/>Nearly three years ago I spent a few hours with a beloved aunt who was close to death. Yes it was in many ways hard to say goodbye, but I still treasure the hour or so we had together whilst she was conscious. I know for sure that she loved me and I know for sure that I still love her. <BR/><BR/>You won't regret - or have regretted this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-31284480384734195752007-10-29T22:43:00.000+00:002007-10-29T22:43:00.000+00:00Iain I only came across this this evening. I'm so ...Iain I only came across this this evening. I'm so sorry, I hope your meeting went well and I'm sure you will look back in later years on it as a good thing. I lost my Dad this February and find the moments of those last days are important for me. I hope they will be a consolation of sorts for you. I hope also the memories of a life well lived are a consolation- even if that consolation is only partial.Gracchihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06344262838391424797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-30034138181922512792007-10-29T21:53:00.000+00:002007-10-29T21:53:00.000+00:00Iain,My thoughts are with you at this time.Words o...Iain,<BR/><BR/>My thoughts are with you at this time.<BR/><BR/>Words of comfort are difficult but my belief is that when your godmother passes away it is just her body that is no more. <BR/><BR/>Her spirit/soul lives on and will no doubt make herself known to you in some way. It would be very natural for this to happen as your mutual love bond is strong.<BR/><BR/>You will still be able to talk to her. Treat her just the same.<BR/><BR/>This poem may help. Take care Iain.<BR/><BR/>Death is nothing at all<BR/><BR/> Death is nothing at all<BR/> I have only slipped away into the next room<BR/> I am I and you are you<BR/> Whatever we were to each other<BR/> That we are still<BR/> Call me by my old familiar name<BR/> Speak to me in the easy way you always used.<BR/> Put no difference into your tone<BR/> Wear no false air of solemnity or sorrow<BR/> Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we shared together.<BR/> Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.<BR/> Let my name be ever the household word that it always was<BR/> Let it be spoken without effect<BR/> Without the ghost of a shadow on it.<BR/> Life means all that it ever meant<BR/> It is the same as it ever was, there is absolutely unbroken continuity<BR/> What is death but a negotiable accident<BR/> Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight<BR/> I am just waiting for you, for an interval somewhere very near,<BR/> Just around the corner<BR/> All is well.<BR/><BR/>God Bless<BR/><BR/>WojtekAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-35025885266791877972007-10-29T20:56:00.000+00:002007-10-29T20:56:00.000+00:00its never easy to say good bye to people you love....its never easy to say good bye to people you love.They are part of you and your journey in life.Just remeber to keep her alive in your heart and your thoughts.<BR/>may she find true peace and restAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-59935456024278047352007-10-29T20:21:00.000+00:002007-10-29T20:21:00.000+00:00My sincerest sympathy. Just focus on celebrating ...My sincerest sympathy. Just focus on celebrating the love and the good times throughout your lives together.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-68814218225451747452007-10-29T19:17:00.000+00:002007-10-29T19:17:00.000+00:00IainSo sorry to hear about your Godmother's illnes...Iain<BR/>So sorry to hear about your Godmother's illness. I shall pray for her peaceful passing, and for you and your family that you may only remember all the good times. You may not be a believer, but I have always found prayer to be a great source of comfort in difficult times.<BR/>God bless you all.<BR/><BR/>YorkshirelassAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-58334046855805391732007-10-29T19:08:00.000+00:002007-10-29T19:08:00.000+00:00My advice to the public is that if your grandparen...My advice to the public is that if your grandparents are basically healthy and you want them to be around a few more years.<BR/><BR/>Do not take them to a state hospital. If you do, do all you can to insure they do not stay there even one night.<BR/><BR/>My grandmother is 100 next May. She still lives in her own home and only allows family to do things for her, which is very rare indeed.<BR/><BR/>She attributes her long healthy life to no more then a complete mistrust of state or charity sponsored hospitals. This since her mother worked in one before and during the 1st WW. <BR/><BR/>Her mother told her they were killing off the old especially, to make way for injured soldiers 2 years before the war had even started.<BR/><BR/>You think it could not happen now? Then think again. <BR/><BR/>My heart is with you Iain. There is never a GOOD time or place to say goodbye.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-4614932224545705382007-10-29T19:01:00.000+00:002007-10-29T19:01:00.000+00:00Good luck and sympathy - she sounds a wonderful p...Good luck and sympathy - she sounds a wonderful person and I'm sure, in the end, you'll be very glad you went. I've been in similar circumstances twice, for both parents, and please make sure you drive carefully. If you can't focus on the road get someone else to drive. If you get the chance to read her some of the wonderful comments above it might be comforting for both of you. Big hugs!grumpyoldbookwormhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09101966726409162091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-86113667246383578232007-10-29T18:47:00.000+00:002007-10-29T18:47:00.000+00:00God Bless Her Soul.God Bless Her Soul.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-12298069673466648172007-10-29T17:53:00.000+00:002007-10-29T17:53:00.000+00:00My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. A...My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. A common phrase but one I sincerely express.Bennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12060185317575781641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-57768693622856661402007-10-29T17:40:00.000+00:002007-10-29T17:40:00.000+00:00Iain,I'm sorry to hear your news. However, good t...Iain,<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry to hear your news. However, good things come to those who have been good to others. I'm sure there's a space for Eleanor in heaven. I do believe, so I will say a prayer.<BR/><BR/>Chin up<BR/><BR/>SteveDaily Referendumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00899003349232334603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-70109241337512137842007-10-29T16:07:00.000+00:002007-10-29T16:07:00.000+00:00Iain,though their earthly bodies pass away, those ...Iain,<BR/><BR/>though their earthly bodies pass away, those that we love live on in our hearts and thoughts, and - most personally - in the people they helped us become. And so as long as we think, speak, or act in respect of them and their memory, they can never die.<BR/><BR/>God be with you, and Eleanor.<BR/><BR/>SAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-50781172342126624822007-10-29T14:09:00.000+00:002007-10-29T14:09:00.000+00:00My thoughts are with you.My thoughts are with you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-90276279412432360202007-10-29T14:08:00.000+00:002007-10-29T14:08:00.000+00:00As Scottish man I would like to add that politics...As Scottish man I would like to add that politics, and nationality should not overide our humanity. And my sympathy goes to you. Other people on this board have said it better than I can.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-44342759738322288992007-10-29T14:07:00.000+00:002007-10-29T14:07:00.000+00:00As a scot my sympathy goes to you. Us Scottish peo...As a scot my sympathy goes to you. Us Scottish people have sympathy for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-81622321559054802362007-10-29T13:59:00.000+00:002007-10-29T13:59:00.000+00:00I'm so sorry. Please tell her how much you love he...I'm so sorry. Please tell her how much you love her and how you appreciate all that she did for you and your sisters.<BR/>I feel that you were very lucky to have known her and she was very lucky to have known you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-41566017475311500642007-10-29T13:49:00.000+00:002007-10-29T13:49:00.000+00:00How sad for you - I hope you are OK. When I was g...How sad for you - I hope you are OK. When I was growing up my parents had a Morris with the registration plate 001283. Just thought I would mention that...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-13326148237668358642007-10-29T13:39:00.000+00:002007-10-29T13:39:00.000+00:00It's sad to read something like this - my sympathi...It's sad to read something like this - my sympathies to Eleanor, yourself and the family & friends. <BR/><BR/>One must admire her courage to face into life's final act. <BR/><BR/>I really hope there is a heaven and that Eleanor be welcomed there when she passes. <BR/><BR/>As the old Irish blessing goes: "May you be sat in heaven a half an hour before the devil knows you're dead."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-60298277916559578062007-10-29T13:37:00.000+00:002007-10-29T13:37:00.000+00:00It is touching that you have chosen to share your ...It is touching that you have chosen to share your personal grief with those who visit and sometimes contribute to, your blog.<BR/><BR/>I hope you will gain strength from the messages left by people of all faiths and political persuasions.<BR/><BR/>When the time is right, you should share with us some of your happiest and funniest memories of your Godmother.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-13293400089787496962007-10-29T13:05:00.000+00:002007-10-29T13:05:00.000+00:00Only the human body dies. We are all infinite cons...Only the human body dies. We are all infinite consciousness and so will inhabit the universe for eternity.<BR/><BR/>Shame that includes Gordon Brown and Attila the Hun but then the world was created this way just to mess with our minds.<BR/><BR/>The trick is to not let the bastards win, by believing that when we die we die. It makes us all cowards not worthy of redemption or respect.<BR/><BR/>Death of the body is a rite of passage, no more spiritually terminal then changing ones jacket.<BR/><BR/>That is not just religious bullshit to make you feel better, it is the TRUTH. <BR/><BR/>Atheism is the religion of the foolish not The Fool.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6214838.post-19505140500747194772007-10-29T12:33:00.000+00:002007-10-29T12:33:00.000+00:00Very sorry to hear that Iain. My grandmother died...Very sorry to hear that Iain. My grandmother died a few months ago, but as Alzheimers had, in effect, taken her bit by bit over the previous months and years, we never really got to say good-bye properly. We did not have that final goodbye moment and by the end she was a pale shadow of the vibrant women we all remembered. I have no doubt it will be terribly hard for you but perhaps it is a blessing that you can have a proper goodbye. Sincerest condolences to you and your family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com